Our Top Picks

TheresaBenoitTheresa’s Top Picks

  1. The 7 Principles to Making Marriage Work by John Gottman
  2. The Dance of Anger by Harriet Learner
  3. Watch the video about the bicycle to understand how we’re trying to change your  brain to change your relationships.
  4. Download the Headspace App.- It’s free and will really help you to regulate emotions, which is key in being relational
  5. Hardwiring Happiness by Rick Hanson





Jeb’s Top Pick’s

  1. Two Minute Tools – Lots of relationship advice in 2 minute bites.  https://mncouplescounseling.com/all-videos/
  2. Intensive Couples Counseling Program – when your relationship is going through hell – we’ll go there with you and find a way out.  The best investment in your relationship that I know of.  https://intensivecouplescounseling.com 
  3. Brent Atkinson’s Developing Habits for Relationship Success Find it at:  http://thecouplesclinic.com/resources/books/
  4. John Gottman’s The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work:. The most research based book out there.  Explicitly tells us what really matters (and doesn’t) in relationships.
  5. Pia Mellody’s Facing Love Addiction: Giving Yourself the Power to Change the Way you Love   – when you just keep holding onto that relationship – even when everyone in your life tells you it’s time to leave.  Also – her book Facing Codependence is the single most comprehensive book on why we struggle in our relationships.  


TerryNorman1Terry’s Top Picks

  1. TED talk by Helen Fisher: Why we love, why we cheat
  2. TED talk by Esther Perel: Rethinking Infidelity
  3. Movie Inside Out
  4. The Truth About Love by Patricia Love
  5. Facing Codependency by Pia Mellody







GreggSchacher-fit  Gregg’s Top Picks

  1.  With over 600 posts to her blog, educator, author and speaker,Emily Nagoski, PhD, writes about sexuality in a way that helps normalize what some cultures/groups define as “dirty” and taboo.  Very informative and, again, research-based (she has a PhD in Health Behavior / human sexuality.
  2. Amazing blog with key DBT concepts that are described in relevant terms so that anyone can utilize the information / strategies.
  3. Phenomenal Cognitive Behavioral Therapy-based UK website with TONS of practical handouts that make generous use of pictorial depictions of concepts and interventions that are readily accessible.
  4. Blog by Dr. Niolon  who works with gay and straight couples in Chicago and is influenced by Gottman, Bowenian and Strategic therapy models.
  5. The Live Real. A website with numerous contributors with the primary goal of applying critical thinking to topics, books, movies, etc. in areas related to spirituality, psychology, relationships, and the physical realm.  This resource is especially helpful in offering objective, well-balanced, and often times research-based perspectives reviewing books by well-known                                                      therapists, psychologists and relationship researchers.




Layne’s Top Picks

  1. Facing Codependence: What it is, Where it Comes From, How it Sabotages our Lives by Pia Mellody
  2. The Gifts of Imperfection: Let go of who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are by Brene Brown
  3. Inside Out (2015 animated movie)
  4. Fake it ‘Til You Make it, TED Talk by Amy Cuddy
  5. Clear Vision, Dewitt Jones, National Geographic Photographer (You Tube video)





Tina’s Top Picks

  1. The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom (A Toltec Wisdom Book) by Don Miguel Ruiz
  2. Developing Habits for Relationship Success: A Step-by-Step Guide for Improving Your Relationship by Brent Atkinson, PhD http://thecouplesclinic.com/resources/books
  3. Facing Codependence: What it is, Where it Comes From, How it Sabotages our Lives by Pia Mellody
  4. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman, PhD
  5. Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships by David Schnarch




Erica’s Top Picks

  1. The Gratitude Diaries: How a Year Looking on the Bright Side can Transform your Life by Janice Kaplan
  2. Inside Out (2015 animated movie)
  3. Affirmations that Make Life Work (worksheet)
  4. Love Map questions from The Gottman Institute
  5. 12-Step Sequence by Brent Atkinson





Lisa’s Top Picks

  1. Self Compassion TED Talk by Kristin Neff
  2. Kristin Neff’s website Self-Compassion 
  3. Shame TED Talk by Brene Brown 
  4. Guided Meditations for smartphones or computer:  Headspace or Calm





Mike’s Top Picks

  1. The Chemistry of Calm: A Powerful, Drug-Free Plan to Quiet Your Fears and Overcome Your Anxiety by Henry Emmons, MD
  2. The Chemistry of Joy: A Three-Step Program for Overcoming Depression Through Western Science and Eastern Wisdom by Henry Emmons, MD
  3. Emotional Intelligence: Why it can Matter More Than IQ by Daniel Goleman
  4. The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman, PhD
  5. Driven to Distraction: Recognizing and Coping with Attention Deficit Disorder from Childhood Through Adulthood by Edward M. Hallowell and John J.Ratey
  6. The Myth of Laziness by Mel Levine, MD


Kate’s Top Picks

1. Photograph, a spoken word performance by Andrea Gibson 
2. Stories We Tell, a documentary about family, memory, and narrative
3. The danger of a single story, a TED talk by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie
4. Happiness, a poem by Susan Griffin

Callie’s Top Picks

1. A great article for couples on turning towards vs turning away by MaureenWerrbach: Are you turning towards your partner?
2. Girl Sex 101 by Allison Moon and KD Diamond
3. Jessica O’Reilly’s Ted Talk: Monogamish: The new rules of marriage. 
4. The Smitten Kitten (website: https://www.smittenkittenonline.com). It’s a sex positive toy shop, but they also have access to books, DVDs, almost anything you want! They periodically do classes for the public around healthy sex lives and are all around awesome! The address is 3010 Lyndale Ave S. Minneapolis, MN

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